Our Mission

We guide men through the crisis of betrayal to a future of integrity. Shame to Resilience offers a structured path to recovery through practical workshops and one-on-one coaching.

At Shame to Resilience, our mission is to provide a clear, compassionate, and effective path forward for men who are ready to make a profound change after betraying trust. We understand the isolating cycle of shame, guilt, and repeated mistakes that follows infidelity or compulsive behavior. Our approach moves beyond just managing the crisis; we provide the tools and framework to take radical responsibility for the past and build a new foundation based on honesty, accountability, and true strength. Through our intensive workshops and confidential coaching, we guide men on the journey from the pain of their past to a future of lasting integrity.

Who We Are

Shame to Resilience provides confidential coaching and workshops for men committed to healing after infidelity, ending compulsive behavior, and rebuilding their lives with integrity.


  • Founder

    Duane is a licensed therapist and certified sex addiction specialist with over 15 years of experience helping men recover after infidelity or betrayal. He’s also the host of the Addicted Mind Podcast and The Shame to Resilience Podcast, guiding millions of listeners to deeper understanding and change.

    Duane’s Mission:

    To empower men to confront the shame holding them back and move forward with integrity, strength, and hope.


  • Eric is a Board-Certified Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner who brings empathy, clinical expertise, and a calming presence to his work. His approach focuses on helping men stay emotionally engaged and grounded in challenging conversations.

    Eric’s Mission:

    To help clients shift from emotional avoidance to connection, creating meaningful progress in rebuilding their lives and relationships.

Our Philosophy: A Clear Path Forward

We know that seeking help can be overwhelming and confusing, especially when you feel lost in a crisis of your own making. You deserve to work with professionals whose values and approach you understand and trust.

We hope that by sharing the core beliefs that guide our work, you will see who we are, what we stand for, and whether we are the right fit to guide you on the journey from shame to resilience.

We Believe in Your Capacity for Change

Before we talk about the work, let's start with our foundational beliefs about you.

  • You Have Inherent Worth. Your past actions do not define your value as a human being. Our work is grounded in respect and a belief in your fundamental worth.

  • You Can Change. We believe that change isn't just possible; it's what you are built for. With the right tools and commitment, you can break destructive patterns and become the man you want to be.

  • Healing is Possible. We believe that healing is possible—for you, for your partner, and often for your relationship. This journey is about moving toward wholeness and integrity, regardless of the outcome.

Our Stance on Honesty and Accountability

To build true resilience, we must be honest about the problem. We hold these principles as the non-negotiable foundation for real recovery.

  • Honesty is the Cornerstone. There is no path forward without radical honesty. A shared, transparent truth is the only ground upon which trust can be rebuilt.

  • Secrecy Causes Profound Harm. We believe that deception, secrets, and sexual behavior without consent in a relationship cause deep emotional and psychological trauma to your partner. We see this as a crisis of integrity that requires direct and honest work to heal.

  • Shame is a Barrier, Not a Solution. We know that shame and defensiveness are the biggest obstacles to your healing. Our work is designed to help you move through shame and past defensiveness into true, meaningful accountability.

  • Empathy Can Be Learned. The ability to truly understand and feel the impact of your actions on others is a skill. We believe it can be taught, developed, and will become the bedrock of your new life.

Our Commitment as Your Guides

This work is challenging. Our commitment is to provide a process that is both direct and compassionate.

  • We Treat You With Respect. This process is tough, but it is always grounded in kindness. We will challenge you directly, but we will never shame you.

  • There is No "One Right Way." We don't have all the answers. Our role is to be your expert guide, not a dictator. We honor that you are the ultimate authority on your own life and will find the healing that works for you.

  • We Welcome Everyone. We support and welcome men from all backgrounds, orientations, and relationship statuses. Your journey is your own, and you deserve a safe place to navigate it.

  • We are All Human. None of us are perfect. This work is about learning from our mistakes and taking responsibility for them without compromising the safety of others. It’s about replacing destructive habits with conscious, healthy choices.

If these principles resonate with you, you are in the right place. This is the foundation upon which you can begin to build a new life of integrity and resilience.

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