GROUNDWORK
The workshop is where you learn the work. Groundwork is where you become the man who keeps doing it.
An ongoing practice community for men who've completed the Shame to Resilience Workshop: a locked home group of men who know your story, meeting week after week, plus additional training offered to the whole community — and a room that doesn't go quiet. Every man inside came through the same ten weeks. That's the door — and it's the reason the room works.
The workshop ends. The work doesn't.
Here's what I've watched happen with hundreds of men. The ten weeks end, and a man walks out with more self-awareness than he's ever had — real momentum, real tools, real hope. And then the calendar goes quiet.
No session on Wednesday. No group waiting for him. Nothing scheduled.
The most dangerous week of this whole journey is the one where nothing is scheduled. Not because the man stops caring — because insight fades without practice, and willpower is a sprint when this is a long road. The men who stay changed aren't the ones who try harder. They're the ones who keep training.
That's what Groundwork is for. And it's why, when we built the workshop, we built what comes after it at the same time.
Your men, every week. And the training to keep growing.
Your Home Group
The heart of Groundwork. A locked, confidential circle of about eight men who know your story — the same faces, week after week, with a facilitator in the room. This is where you bring what actually happened this week: the trigger you outlasted, the moment you got defensive, the repair you're still working up to. Not a forum. Not strangers. Your men.
Community Trainings
Additional live trainings offered to the whole community — regulating your body when it wants to flood, quieting the voice that tears you down, staying present to her pain without defending, repairing when you blow it. The skills the workshop introduced, taken deeper, with the training sheets to practice them. Not content to binge. A practice to keep.
The Community
The bigger room: gatherings, threads, and the letters of men further down the road, so you can see where this leads. Everything is included. One membership.
The men are the reason you stay."
I've watched this happen after almost every workshop.
The men swap numbers. They start a group chat. And it's real — those men know your story like nobody else on earth does.
And here's what happens by month three: it goes quiet.
Not because anyone stopped caring. Because there was no appointment. No shared thing to work on. Connection without structure fades — no matter how much the men mean it.
Groundwork is how your brotherhood keeps its appointment. A home group on the calendar every week with your name on it, that doesn't dissolve when life gets loud. And trainings the whole community shows up for together — so the room always has a pulse.
You can't skip to this part. That's what makes it worth getting to.
I get asked about this a lot — can I just join the community? And I understand the question. If you're carrying this right now, the idea of a room full of men who get it sounds like exactly what you need. It is. But here's the thing.
Every man in Groundwork has done the same ten weeks. He's faced what he did without drowning in shame. He understands what betrayal actually did to his partner — not the version he told himself, the real one. He's learned what repair requires and started practicing it in front of other men. That shared foundation is the whole reason the room is safe. It's why a man can say the hardest thing he's ever said out loud and be met with recognition instead of advice.
If we opened the door to anyone, we'd lose that. So the workshop isn't a hoop. It's the ground the whole thing stands on. And the men who've done it will tell you: the ten weeks are where you find out this is the real part — and Groundwork is where you get to keep it.
Two stages. One direction.
The STR Workshop
Ten weeks, live, small cohort. Where you face what happened, understand what betrayal did to your partner, and learn what repair actually requires. The workshop is the only door into Groundwork.
Groundwork
Ongoing. Where the workshop's understanding becomes trained capacity — your home group every week, additional trainings for the whole community, and a room that speaks the same language. Around week six of your workshop, your invitation arrives, and your first 30 days are free — so you're already in the room before the workshop ends. There's never a week without a container.
Groundwork was created by Duane Osterlind, LMFT, CSAT-S — built on the same clinical framework as the workshop and led by STR-trained facilitators.
What Groundwork is not
- Not a second curriculum to binge. Skills you practice, lived, not consumed.
- Not a forum you'll forget about. Your home group meets every week, and the men notice when you're not there.
- Not a place to hide. You show up, you train, you're seen.
- Not therapy. Groundwork is structured coaching and education. We strongly encourage you to be seeing your own therapist alongside it — what surfaces here is meant to go there.
And for the person who may be reading this over his shoulder: this is where the accountability continues after the workshop ends.
Who this path is for
This is for men who:
- Caused the betrayal and feel genuine remorse
- Take responsibility for the harm — no excuses, no blame-shifting
- Want to become a partner their partner can actually feel safe with
- Know that lasting change is a practice, not a decision
- Are tired of carrying this alone
This is not for men who:
- Want to manage or manipulate their partner's healing
- Are looking for a shortcut around accountability
- Believe the betrayal wasn't their responsibility
- Want a quick fix
The door is the workshop. Walk through it.
Enroll in the next Shame to Resilience Workshop cohort. Do the ten weeks. Around week six, your invitation to Groundwork arrives — and your first 30 days are free, so you're in your home group before the workshop even finishes.
You don't have to decide about Groundwork today. You just have to take the first step.
Already completed the STR Workshop? Reach out to us and we'll get you set up.
Before you start
Can I join Groundwork without doing the workshop?
No — and that's on purpose. Every man in Groundwork has done the same ten weeks. That shared foundation is what makes the room safe and the language common. If this page is speaking to you, the workshop is where it starts.
When do I hear about Groundwork once I'm in the workshop?
Around week six. You'll get a personal invitation with everything you need. Until then, the workshop is all you need to focus on.
What does Groundwork cost?
Groundwork is a monthly membership with everything included, and your first 30 days are free. You'll get the full details with your invitation during the workshop.
How much time does it take?
Your home group's weekly meeting, the community trainings when they're offered, and a few minutes a day of practice in between. You'll get more out of it than it asks of you.
What if I miss a week?
You begin again. Your home group is still there the next week, and the trainings come back around. No streaks, no scoreboards — missing a week is met with a door, not a lecture.
Is this therapy?
No. Groundwork is structured coaching and education, not psychotherapy. We strongly encourage every man in Groundwork to be working with his own therapist — ideally one who understands betrayal and sex addiction — so that what comes up in your home group and in the trainings has somewhere to go. Take it to your therapist. That's where the deeper work happens, and Groundwork is built to feed it, not replace it. If you don't have a therapist, we'll help you find one.
Is it confidential?
Yes. What's shared in Groundwork stays in Groundwork — in the home groups, on the calls, and in the community. That's a condition of membership, not a suggestion.
What will my wife think?
We can't speak for her. What we can tell you is what this is: a weekly, structured commitment to continuing the work you started — with accountability built in. Most partners recognize the difference between a man who finished a program and a man who keeps training.
The work is hard. You don't have to carry it alone — and you don't have to guess what to do next.
Ten weeks to learn the work. A room of men to keep doing it. It starts with the workshop.
Already a workshop graduate? Reach out and we'll get you set up.